Fall Days


Fall in the Alps, more specifically in Vizille, France, in 2015

It’s been a busy few months since I last wrote. I haven’t quite figured out how being a mom and a blogger work together particularly with a snuggle bug baby. 😉 I’m only writing now because she’s finally settled down for a nap in her bed. Although I hear it all the time to sleep when she does, I needed a little quiet on the couch alone doing some writing.

Motherhood seems to have settled in much as fall seems to finally be settling in here in Middle Tennessee. I often still feel in awe that I’m a mom. Other times, I’m sleepily trying to talk to my husband while we’re both sleep deprived from a fussy, hungry, growing, teething baby and understand somewhat what other moms call “the fog”. Our little darlin’ is as cute as she can be and quite attentive to all that’s going on around her. As several have noted, she has quite the observant, inquisitive stare, particularly when she meets a new person. She’s sitting up, trying to figure out how to crawl, and putting everything she can grab into her mouth. Her giggles and smiles bring us so much joy and light, I’ve begun to wonder how we ever lived without her.


Playing with her teddy bear

Everyone tells me that it goes by so fast. They mention how theirs are all grown, and it feels like just yesterday when they were as small as our little one. I smile and nod and figure I’ll one day say the same when our little girl is grown and off on her own. My Granny told me on the phone about this time last year that you’re always a mom, it never leaves you, even when your oldest is in his sixties. She was referring to my dad and said that when he was a baby, she used to hold him up in the car window, so people they passed could see the cutest baby that ever was. I feel much the same way about our little girl and know I share that feeling with mothers before me and all around me.

Fall, in particular, brings back a lot of memories for me from times both abroad and in some of the other places I’ve lived. It’s this time of year when I miss seeing the trees changing in the Alps and miss strolls in Happy Hollow Park up in Indiana. I also think of a beautiful October walk with George when we were still dating. What will I remember from these days of early motherhood in the fall? Oh, I’m thinking of chilly, long walks with George pushing the stroller as leaves stick to the wheels on the paved trails in the park. I’m thinking of our baby staring in wonder up at the trees and turning her head to hear the birds singing and flying about. I’ll remember our trip to Lake Tahoe in early October where trying to count how many shades of blue, gray, and green one could see on the lake seemed nearly impossible and how sweet it was to have some walks hand in hand alone with my husband. Perhaps it’s the smells and colors of fall which make it so perfect for making memories.

I think I hear the baby stirring. I better end for now, but tell me, what things do you think of when you think of fall?


“And Everything”

Have you ever known a person who meant a lot to you, but you really didn’t realize how much until they were no longer there?

I’m sure it’s that way with most of us. It’s human nature to take people and things for granted. We have this idea that they’ll always be there.

Her name was Ruth. I always called her Sister Ruth though since in my church we call each other “Brother” and “Sister” since we consider ourselves brothers and sisters in Christ. As a child, I was actually rather scared of Sister Ruth. She came across as rather stern to me. I found out as I grew older that behind what seemed like a stern exterior was a very caring and sweet heart.

She was quite a storyteller too. She told us several stories about her parents and her grandparents who had farms on the plains of West Texas. She talked about her family and was just talented in sucking you into her story and making you laugh or think how interesting it was. I really wish we had written down the stories she told us sitting at the table at church or when we went to visit her. The phrase that peppered these stories and every conversation we had with her was “and everything”. When there was a lull in conversation or just to end a sentence, you would hear Sister Ruth’s “and everything”. Mom used to give us stern looks when as children we’d start to get tickled at a string of several “and everything’s” in one sentence.

“If I call you ‘kid’, it means I like you.”

This was addressed to one of my brothers at church one day and made both of us laugh. She had worked for years and years in the cafeteria of the local school district, so she had been around a lot of kids during those years. This term of endearment was used with my brothers and me and later my nieces and nephews. “Hey, Kid, what do you know this week?” she asked my little nephew a few months ago which was answered with a mischievous grin from my nephew. Yes, he probably knew plenty he wasn’t going to tell her.

She was an amazing cook too. She found out very quickly my love for fried okra and black-eyed peas. When she could, she’d bring both to church and tell me to take all the leftovers home to eat on that week. In fact, the Sunday before I left for my first semester long adventure in France, she made me swear over my okra that I wasn’t going to bring back a Frenchman. Yes, she made suggestions in this area of my life too though never in a matchmaking sense. She simply told me to get my education first. When I came close to graduating with my B.A., she then gave me permission to begin looking although she did qualify who I was to be looking for: “Now, remember, he has to be from Texas and not just any part of Texas. He needs to be from West Texas.” We all laughed about this.

There was more to Sister Ruth though than just being a good cook and a good storyteller. She had a heart. I was told by others about how she helped them so much in dire need and would hardly accept a thank you or any sort of monetary compensation. She saw a need and she helped. She didn’t see a need for recognition or for a thanks. She worked hard all her life and helped where she could. Actually, if she had known I was going to write this, she probably would have tanned my hide so to speak or have threatened to never make fried okra again.

There is a hole at church now. I no longer hear her singing to herself as she does the dishes to help clean up. I no longer go up teasingly and ask to borrow some of her dishwater to wipe down tables. She no longer sits in her usual chair at the table. Her pew is empty. Her voice and her laugh are gone.

I know she’s gone. I saw her briefly a few days before the Lord took her home. She was in a lot pain and quite miserable. However, now she has victory. Her soul is at peace with our Heavenly Father.

Another dear saint said to me the day before she passed away earlier this year “I’ll see you at Jesus’ feet.” I feel the same way about Sister Ruth. I’ll see her again at Jesus’ feet, and what a day that will be!

…….and everything.