I was sitting in class the other day nearly shaking from my caffeine intake while my professor was discussing a part of the book we had been reading for class. I usually know that I’ve probably had too much caffeine when I feel my heart beating through my entire body and seem to be unable to stay still for long. I was sitting there fidgeting and feeling the heartbeat pulsing while “listening” to my professor discuss something about themes and characters and so on and so forth.
I really do enjoy listening to him talk since he can wax quite profound, I was just not as interested in the topic at hand. I was starting to zone out and stare at the posters of France on the wall when the melodious sound of laughter rang out through the room. My colleague next to me being ever so stressed and tired had succumbed to laughter after another bored student made a funny face at her. Thankfully, this broke the professor’s monologue with all of the classroom beginning to laugh and then we moved on to more interesting things like a break. It’s a blessing that the prof has some sense of humor, otherwise, that could have been a not so great situation.
The point I’m getting to is that I need to really learn to listen better. I’m really bad to zone out sometimes when people are talking. You know, when you’re staring at someone and all you hear is “blah, blah, blah.” and then they say something interesting like this:
“blah, blah, blah, coffee, blah, blah, French, blah, blah, blah.”
Then, you have to carefully get them to back up and say what they were originally saying because you actually found it interesting in your own little selfish way.
I’m trying to work on this. I know all of us have drifted off into our imaginations or off to sleep during lectures. But, what about in conversations with friends? Am, I just listening long enough until I can interject what I want to say because I think it’s more interesting? Unfortunately this happens more than I would like to admit.
Here’s a few things to keep in mind for all of us:
1. When a friend or family member calls, do not open facebook or email while “chatting”. I’m very guilty of this and the person on the other end of the phone conversation will probably figure out pretty quickly that you’re not really listening to them.
2. When a friend is talking to you, really listen by making eye contact. Don’t only think about what you want to say next.
3. It’s not all about you.
4. Think about how you hope people are listening to you.
5. Yes, professors or coworkers can come across as boring in their lectures/presentations but make it your goal to find at least 2-3 things that were important for you to know from what they said.
These are 5 things I’m especially going to work, so don’t think I’m just preaching to preach.
~And, yes, you guessed it, I’m yet again avoiding working on a paper. It seems most of my thoughts for this blog come while I’m supposed to be working on homework. Murphy’s law, I suppose.~